Five Habits (aka "bitches") to Kick Out for a better 2017


If you're doing a little year end reflection, chances are really good that you see some room for improvement.  And if you're human (like me), you have been busy criticizing yourself for your bad habits and behaviors, or lack of good habits and behaviors.  There is also a chance that you've been hiding, sometimes literally hiding under your covers, from the work it's going to take to make changes.  

When we want change, we have to take action.  The benefit?  Taking action reduces anxiety and can ease symptoms of depression.  This is what we want, friends!  

The best way to prepare for action is to make a plan.  The planning stage is when we acknowledge the changes we want to make.  We look those bitches of bad habits in the eye and tell them, "you don't own me!".  

These are the 5 bitches I'm staring down in 2017, and I'm not alone.  I compiled this shortlist based on conversations with peers, friends, fellow wives and moms, colleagues in the fitness world, and Health and Wellness leaders.  Here goes:

#1 Hiding under the covers in the morning: This makes us feel guilty and starts the day with negative thoughts.  GET UP.  You will never regret that extra time in the morning to do something that feels GOOD.  Reward yourself immediately for getting up with something you love.  A good stretch, a cup of tea or coffee in your favorite mug, cuddle an animal, read a chapter of your book, whatever.  Just start your day when you wake up.  

#2 Screen-time before bed and first thing in the AM:  Good sleep is just easier when we take a few minutes to unwind with a magazine/book, write in the journal, make a plan for the next morning, or if lucky... have sex.  In the morning, it's best to avoid the screen for at least the first 15-30 minutes.  If you head straight for social media or email, you end up in a responsive or reactionary mode.  Personally, I just feel better when I spend a little bit of time organizing myself while sipping my coffee.  And feeling better is kinda my thing.

#3 Complaining about People: this is an absolute waste of your fucking breath and energy.  Catch it as it's about to come out.  Own it.  This is your own bullshit manifesting itself.  You are truly announcing to the world, "Hey!  I have lots of my own shit I could deal with but prefer to waste my breath on so-and-so." Disclaimer: I'm guilty of this from time to time, but less and less as I continue to do the work on it.  

#4 Wishing your Time Away: Yes, you wish to be richer, more fit, more successful, have more/fewer/different relationships.  Catch yourself on this insanity track, and write down something you're wishing for.  Is it achievable?  If yes, make a plan and see about going for it.  Is it a fantasy?  Write it down on paper, light it on fire, and replace the time you've been spending fantasizing on working toward your achievable  goals.  The ceremony with the fire is actually fun.  

#5 Social Media Usage: this is a real struggle for many of us.  It's an easy distraction from ourselves.  It's a time waster that can very easily turn into a negative thought creating, self-esteem crushing, energy sucking, highly addictive substance.  We make all kinds of rules for children; set some guidelines for yourself, and WORK at sticking to them.  This is when wearable reminders become extremely helpful: I look at my bracelet, which reminds me to ask, "is this really good for me?"

So, if none of these apply to you....CONGRATULATIONS!  You are highly evolved and doing absolutely fantastic.  But if any of this is relevant to you, call me or drop me a line.  Let's hold each other accountable.  I look forward to the new year and an improved version of the ME I'm growing to love more and more with each step I take forward.  I'm also working on being "okay" with the occasional step backward.  I'm a good human working on being just a little better and a little happier.  There's a good chance that you are, too.  

Sending out good energy to my comrades in growth. Much Love,

Robyn